June 23, 2016 Isn’t the point of going online to get offline? (No need to answer that. I think it’s pretty clear!) So many people ask me, “How do you just get offline?!” Or, “When is the appropriate time to
15 Quick & Dirty Tips for Your Online Dating Profile
March 2, 2016 You haven’t written your online dating profile yet? As any intrusive relative (we all have them) would say, “You’re not getting any younger!” This is before the requisite pinch cheek, of course. When you’re ready to take the leap
Is anyone out there reading my profile?
January 15, 2016 Question: Dear Erika: I am frustrated. It seems like no one is even reading the online dating profile I put out there. Men are emailing me from all over the country even though I explicitly stated only
10 Phrases You Should Delete from Your Online Dating Profile
September 14th, 2015 Depending on how long you’ve been on an online dating site, you can probably relate to that déjà-vu feeling you get when it feels like you’re reading the same profile over and over again. Somehow, everyone is
Is Doing Your Due Diligence the New Normal?
August 10, 2015 In some ways, three years seems like no time, and in other ways, it seems like a lifetime ago. Just over three years ago, I wrote an article called To Google or Not to Google? That is the
What’s in a name?
May 27, 2015 Henry90210 283017390 BlueEyedWriter NatsFanFromAK If I gave you these four online dating usernames (all made up, of course), whose profile do you think you’d click on first? I’d venture to say, solely based on the username, that
Texting and Dating: How Much Is Too Much?
March 16, 2015 How many times have you said the following to your friends, or have they said something like this to you? We were talking online, and then he asked for my number to make it easier to schedule
The Lady Doth Protest Too Much, Methinks
January 26, 2015 I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not a literature buff. I vaguely remember reading Romeo & Juliet in high school, but that’s really the extent of my knowledge. (I did used to think it was interesting
The Top Five Online Dating Findings from 2014
December 29, 2014 Do you like to travel? Me, too. Apparently so does everyone else on Match.com. How do I know this? Match.com just came out with its 2014 Year in Review report, and below are the top five highlights:
Online Dating: Then and Now
September 22, 2014 Online dating has been around for a while now. In fact, Match.com first opened its proverbial doors back in 1993! As you may know, I was actually a very early adopter of online dating, using JDate back
How to Win the Dating Game
July 30, 2014 I play mahjong. It’s true. I know I’m a bit younger than the average-aged player (though I’m not sure why it trends that way!), but I love my weekly mahjong games. I play with a group of
The Intro Says It All
May 30, 2014 When you go to a bookstore, would you rather buy the book with the line, “This book is about a woman’s adventure and coming of age,” or the one with the line, “Read a rare tale about
Catch a Date with “Email Bait”
April 24, 2014 Have you ever come across an online dating profile that you like, you want to send a message, and then you have a strong bout of writer’s block? It turns out you’re not alone. Many people have no
No Catfish Tonight For Me
March 13, 2014 When people hear the term “online dating,” they don’t always know what it means. Here’s what it doesn’t mean: Having a virtual girlfriend or boyfriend Dating in your pajamas for the rest of eternity while eating a
‘Tis the Season… For Online Dating
December 18, 2013 Ah, December… the time for lighting the menorah (thanks to Thanksgivukkah, that was in November as well), getting trampled at Best Buy and Target, finding the house with the gaudiest Christmas lights, and, of course, wondering whether
“Paws” Before Posting: Curb Your Desire to Hide Deal Breakers
August 5, 2013 About three months ago, I went to adopt a dog. This was a big step for me since, as a young girl, I was bitten by my neighbor’s dog (and still have the scar to prove
Obstacles to the First Date
July 2, 2013 We all know what an obstacle is. According to our good friends Merriam and Webster, an obstacle is, “something that impedes progress or achievement.” Now, what if that “something” is you? In dating, there are so
Online Dating Email Etiquette
May 28, 2013 In almost every aspect of life, we go after the things we want. Not thrilled with your job? Get your resume together and search for a new one. Some recent weight gain before swimsuit season upsetting you?
The Curse of the Empty Adjective
March 18, 2013 I’m smart, funny, and attractive. I’m humble, successful, and kind. I’m romantic, thoughtful, and trustworthy. I’m sexy, passionate, and fearless. I’m compassionate, honest, and friendly. How many times have we seen lines like these in online
He Likes Me For Me
February 14, 2013 Tips for creating an online dating profile that attracts the right people. It’s hard to write your online dating profile, isn’t it? Even if you’re a professional writer, when it comes to putting pen to paper
The Case for Being Alone… In Your Profile Picture
January 17, 2013 Online dating experts often give conflicting advice… 3 pictures versus 5 pictures, a long profile versus a short one, listing your salary range versus leaving it blank. But there’s one online dating pointer that most experts
Are you a PSP or a DO?
October 11, 2012 If you know me at all, you know I’m a happy person. Like, sunshine and rainbows happy. Lollipops and daffodils happy. Springtime and gumdrops happy. And I’m an eternal optimist, truly believing that the glass is half
Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby
July 25, 2012 In this day and age, sex runs rampant throughout pop culture. There are TV shows (“Sex and the City” was a personal favorite), songs, and plenty of movies that go into far more detail than
A Game of Pick-Up Check
May 21, 2012 You know the scenario well: The check comes. No one moves. You look at each other. You smile. The check sits there. This, my friends, is what we call a little game of “pick-up check.” The
In Defense of “Creepy Spreadsheet Guy”
April 26, 2012 The internet moves fast, doesn’t it? In the course of several days, a guy goes on a date from Match.com, thinks there’s potential for a second date, and then gets publicly humiliated, hereby being named “Creepy