October 16, 2018 I have an account on Instagram where I post dating messages. Sometimes they’re ones I’ve received myself, sometimes friends’ messages, clients’ messages, or messages submitted to me by other users of Instagram. The common theme of these
8 Things NOT To Do On a First Date
September 1, 2018 Having your phone out or texting someone else It’s rude—plain and simple. When you have your phone out, the other person assumes that you’re looking for better plans or would jump to leave at the first ding
Women’s Top 5 Dating Pet Peeves
July 26, 2018 This article is for anyone trying to get a date with a woman. As a woman myself, and working with 65% female clients of all ages, I have some insider information on what women want when it
The Art of the First Date
March 6, 2018 While a lot of the advice I give revolves around how to get the first date, even more important is how to nail that first date. First dates can be nerve-wracking, whether you’re a seasoned dater or
Posing This Simple Question to a First Date Will Doom Your Chances of a Second Date
January 18, 2018 I just read this article in Business Insider the other day called “Posing this simple question to a first date will help you decide if you have a future together.” As a dating coach who gives plenty
Dating in the #MeToo Movement
January 18, 2018 Now that some of the dust has settled (the key word being “some”), I’m going to give my take on the Aziz Ansari situation. Note that I actually wrote this on Monday evening, right after the story
6 Reasons Why They Don’t Reply
December 12, 2017 This one is mainly for the ladies… You’re swiping through Bumble. You see a really cute guy (or gal). You swipe right. You match!! You message him (on Bumble, the woman has to write first)… only to
Eerie, Sexy, or Funny… What Your Costume Says About You
October 31, 2017 People often ask me what to wear on a first date. I give a few pieces of advice on this topic: – Wear clothes to match the venue. (As in, something casual at a coffee shop. Something
Are the Dating Apps Effective Tools for Meeting Someone?
August 8, 2017 Despite the nuanced differences, all dating apps (Tinder, Bumble, Happn, The League, Coffee Meets Bagel, etc.) work similarly in that you look at a picture and you swipe left or right (not interested or interested, respectively) based
Are We Still On? Dating in the Time of Flakes.
July 20, 2017 I scheduled a coffee date for 1 PM Thursday with someone on Bumble. We arranged this through the dating app the night before around midnight, ending with, “I’ll see you then!” At 11 AM on Thursday, the
Two Lies Don’t Make a Truth
July 5, 2017 I had a date several years ago with someone I had met on an online dating site. He was handsome, witty, and intelligent—the trifecta in my book—so we decided to meet for brunch. (As a side note,
Emojis and Online Dating: A Match Made in… Face with Rolling Eyes + Pile of Poo
June 6, 2017 I can’t lie—I’m a big fan of the emoji. If I’m talking about my propensity to make a pun in any and all situations, I’ll probably punctuate it with the “nerd face” emoji. Or, if I’m asking
Your Dating Life is Not Only as Good as Your Last Date
May 1, 2017 I have a client who is lovely. She is 55 years old but looks 45 (which I rarely say!), extremely physically active, and has a smile for miles. I’m helping her manage her Match.com account—selecting men, helping
Why We Want the One Person We Can’t Have
March 31, 2017 The story often starts the same. You like someone. He or she likes you… maybe. You continue liking this person. This person stops liking you (or never did) and pulls back. You like this person more. This
Dating Pointers in an Interview with 730DC
February 14, 2017 I was recently interviewed by a young professional publication in Washington, DC called 730DC. I realized, after reading the article, that much of the advice here is applicable not just to people in DC or to young professionals,
#BachelorGirlsSoYoung
January 18, 2017 The Bachelor started back up a few weeks ago. Now, I didn’t start watching until two seasons ago, mainly because Ben Higgins was so darn cute, but every time a new season starts, I have mixed feelings
You’re Such a Liar!
December 14, 2016 I had a date several years ago with someone I had met on an online dating site. He was handsome, witty, and intelligent—the trifecta in my book—so we decided to meet for brunch. (As a side note,
Don’t Get In Your Own Way
November 8, 2016 It’s easy to talk ourselves out of something, isn’t it? We usually do this when we don’t think things will go our way, so we “didn’t want it anyway.” About 10 years ago, when I was still working
Have you committed a dating sin?
October 11, 2016 If you’re Jewish, like I am, then you know that the most sacred time of the year, the High Holidays, is upon us. (It’s a bit later than usual this year because of the extra month added
Dating After Divorce: What You Need To Know
September 16, 2016 According to the American Psychological Association, in Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people get married by the time they turn 50 years old. 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the US, however, get
It’s Not the Medium; It’s the Person
August 18, 2016 It always starts the same: “I hate online dating.” Or, “I quit online dating.” Or, “I don’t believe in online dating.” I, of course, have to follow up half-heartedly with “why?” I say half-heartedly not because I’m
A Date in the Hand…
April 27, 2016 Client 1 (Alicia): “I joined Match.com two weeks ago, and only creeps and weirdos have emailed me!” Erika: “That’s annoying! But you’re a great catch, so of course people are emailing you.” Alicia: “Yeah, but they’re not
Are all apps just for casual relationships?
April 26, 2016 Have you heard the expression “hookup culture” recently? Our friend and foe Wikipedia defines “hookup culture” as a culture that accepts and encourages casual sexual encounters, focusing on immediate pleasure rather than long-term commitment. This is not
Your Body Language Can Impact Your Dating Life
April 1, 2016 While it’s obvious that what you say on a date can make or break the experience, what you do also has a huge impact on your chances of getting to date #2. You might be the next
15 Quick & Dirty Tips for Your Online Dating Profile
March 2, 2016 You haven’t written your online dating profile yet? As any intrusive relative (we all have them) would say, “You’re not getting any younger!” This is before the requisite pinch cheek, of course. When you’re ready to take the leap