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What Can I Write to Attract a Quality Person?

“What can I write in my profile to attract the kind of person I’m looking for?” This is a question I get from clients almost daily. In their mind, they have a target partner. Let’s say this “target” is a

“I Just Didn’t Feel the Connection”

Why is it that something that should seem so easy – telling someone you’re not interested – is so hard for many people? I get it – no one wants to hurt anyone’s feelings. So, I’m going to share a

A Virtual Date is Still a Date

The world has been massively disrupted by the coronavirus pandemic over the past 10 months, and the dating scene is no exception — ask anyone who has debated meeting for socially distanced drinks with a complete stranger. Although singles are getting

How Not To Ghost

September 4th, 2020 I got this question last week from a client: “I wanted to share the details about my date on Saturday. It was okay – nothing to write home about – just okay. He’s not someone I would

“Why Can’t I Find a Man of My Caliber?”

July 3, 2020 I work with a lot of amazing, successful women. A lot. And I am constantly impressed by these women’s tenacity, drive, and achievements in life. Most have made their financial wealth on their own and are very

Red Flags, No Information, and Double Messaging… Oh My!

July 3, 2020 Every day, I get interesting questions from clients, and today, I’d like to tackle three questions I received recently. Remember that if you have a question, chances are likely that someone else has the same one, too.

The “Talking-Phase” Turn-Offs

July 3, 2020 There’s an important period in a relationship that’s often overlooked in online dating: the point between finding an interesting profile and actually meeting in person. While there is an art to crafting an interesting opening message —

Do You Know Your Dating Lingo?

July 3, 2020 Anyone in the world of dating today, especially online and in apps, will tell you that there are a few words you may have to add to your vocabulary. By now, everyone knows about catfishing — pretending you’re

Everything You Need to Know About Dating During Coronavirus

COVID-19 isolation, or social distancing, has two conflicting impacts on the dating world: 1) People are using the online dating sites more, and many sites have reported the surge in usage, but 2) People cannot go on actual, in-person dates right now. So how do you reconcile these two opposite things?

The Case for Crawling to the Altar

March 11, 2020 I got this text the other day from a 40-year-old male client of mine, someone I’ve been working with on and off over the last few years. It said, “I’ve been anxious to re-start dating (i.e. want

5 Reasons to Revamp Your Dating Strategy

February 14, 2020 On Valentine’s Day, many people reflect on the fact that they are single and don’t necessarily want to be. (Side note: Being single is MORE than okay… sprawl out in bed, watch what you want on TV,

What To Do If You Hate Dating

I just got off the phone with a potential client. She’s in her mid-60s, lives in New York City, is accomplished, and wants to find a partner now that she’s been divorced for a number of years. All of this sounds par for the course in terms of my regular clientele. Most people I work with are in the same predicament: divorced or widowed and looking to spend the rest of their lives with a loving partner.

Texting is the Death of the First Date

January 15, 2020 I did something recently that I don’t usually do—I tried to prove myself wrong. As a dating coach, the advice I give is what I know to work. Even if it works 90% of the time, I’ll

Looking for “The One”? Try Dating NATO.

I recommend dating “not attached to outcome.” Not everyone will be compatible romantically, but does that mean that the whole experience was a waste of time? Of course not.

6 Dating App Mistakes You’re Making… And How to Fix Them

August 4, 2019 So many people come to me asking why Bumble (or insert your favorite online dating app) “isn’t working.” What does “working” mean anyway? Some people think it means they should end up in a long-term relationship. While

A Tweak or Rewrite Can Make All the Difference

July 1, 2019 I Get By With a Little Help From My… Dating Coach Whenever I start working with new clients, I first ask if they are currently on an online dating site, and, if so, which one(s). I then

How Important is Height Really?

April 1, 2019 I have a Google Alert set to send me any articles where the phrase “online dating” appears. I usually get notifications about new apps that are trying to take market share (good luck), crazy people who send

Maybe This is Why You’re Single

For all of that “work,” you don’t have a date.

Can We Apply the KonMarie Method to Relationships?

What if it’s time to let an old relationship go?

5 Steps to Dating Success in 2019

A new year is almost upon us. It’s a time for getting older, getting wiser, and getting… dates?

Chivalry vs. Equality in Dating

November 12, 2018 I was reading some comments on a dating article last week, and they highlighted a point that I already knew: In this day and age, there are two opposing forces—chivalry and equality. (Please note that in this

This is How to Properly Plan a Date

October 16, 2018 I have an account on Instagram where I post dating messages. Sometimes they’re ones I’ve received myself, sometimes friends’ messages, clients’ messages, or messages submitted to me by other users of Instagram. The common theme of these