As a dating coach, I’ve seen the landscape of modern dating evolve at a dizzying pace. From swiping right on Tinder to sending a Super Like on Bumble, the way we meet and connect with potential partners has dramatically changed.
Situationships… How and Why?
Ah, the situationship—the modern-day romantic limbo that leaves many of us scratching our heads, wondering, “What are we?” If you’ve ever found yourself in this ambiguous gray area, you’re not alone. Situationships have become increasingly common in today’s dating world
Dating Red Flags: Signs to Watch Out for in Potential Partners
I’ll admit that the term “Red Flag” is overused today. People are classifying anything from someone’s taste in music (Broadway for me) to their obsession with their dog as a dreaded red flag. While those things might not align with
Why “Not My Type” Is Hurting Your Chances of Meeting a Perfect Match
As an online dating coach, I offer a range of services to clients, from getting them off on the right foot with the right profile and photos to doing most of the dating “work” for them, leading up to the
Lying About Your Age in Your Dating Profile Is Never a Good Idea (Seriously — No Exceptions)
You’ve probably been told at some point in your life that there’s nothing wrong with a little white lie. And in some cases, yes — it’s better to tell your sister-in-law that her new haircut looks great rather than start a
The Right (No Ambiguity, No Pressure) Way to Ask Someone Out on a Second Date
You’ve done the hard part. You’ve started a conversation with someone on an online dating app or website, you planned a meet-up, and you’ve had a successful first date. What’s next? Another hard part (in case you haven’t caught on…
Questions to Ask Yourself When “Every” Match Isn’t Working Out
People like to be in control — at their jobs, of their decisions, and in pretty much every area of life — but dating can sometimes feel like you’re on a wild rollercoaster that you can’t get off. And like most
5 Scripts to Have in Your Online Dating Arsenal — When to Use Them and Why They Work
Online dating can be a roller coaster — thrilling with your hands excitedly raised above your head at times, holding on for dear life at others. And while many think finding a potential match’s profile is the hard part, many know
5 Photos NOT to Post in Your Online Dating Profiles
What you write in your online dating profile requires careful thought — after all, it’s giving the reader (a potential match) the first impression of who you are and what you’re all about. But photos require an equal amount of attention,
“I Can’t” Means “I Can’t” & “I Won’t” Means “I Won’t”
A client recently reached out to me to ask for advice on a dating situation. (This is not news… it’s my job!) After a “great” first date, the man told my client that he’d be interested in connecting again but noted that he was looking for “something casual” because he was recently divorced. She said that despite looking for a long-term relationship, she thought she was okay with something casual since she liked this guy and had other family-related responsibilities to take care of at the time.
Is Summer a Good Season for Dating? The Pros and Cons of Warm Weather Wooing
If you Google “best time to start a dating profile,” you’ll find no shortage of answers. Some are based on personal experiences and some are based on research or polls, but there is a wide range of answers. My thoughts? There are pros and cons to every season when it comes to dating — and summer is no exception.
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
I got this question the other day:
“What’s your advice on getting back into the dating pool after a breakup? Is there a certain amount of time one should wait? Or, is it a case of getting back on the horse right after falling off? My heart was broken recently… and my friends are telling me to get back out there and date. My walls have been built back up again and I don’t know if I can date anyone right now. What would you recommend?”
How to Explain a Bad Date, With Help from Psychology
What went wrong on your last date? The way you answer could change everything about how you approach your next one.
An Outdated Profile May Make you Lose Out on a Date
Many years ago, I had a client who was on an online dating site, and someone she was interested in had a really cute picture of himself with a dog. So, when she reached out to him, she said, “What a cute pup! What’s his/her name?” The guy replied and, rather than being flattered that my client reached out, he instead accused her of stalking him: “How did you know I had a dog? Did you look me up? What else do you know about you?” She promptly wrote, “Look at your fourth picture.” End scene.
Is Paying for an Online Dating Site Worth It? Here’s What the Stats Say
It’s no secret that people are watching their wallets these days — and for good reason (if you’ve bought eggs or needed to fill your car with gas recently, you’ll know what I’m talking about). So it would make sense that many singles are sticking to free apps and websites when it comes to online dating. However, finding love might be worth investing in a premium service.
What Not to Write in Your Dating Profile: Turning Negative Statements into Positive Outlooks
As a dating coach, I’ve read a lot of online dating profiles… which also means that I’ve read a lot of bad dating profiles. There are many things that can turn me (and my clients) off to a person’s bio — from bad grammar to lack of photos to rants about politics — but perhaps the worst perpetrator is general negativity.
All People Are Different People
In anticipation of Season 3 of Ted Lasso (which has not disappointed as of yet!), I decided to re-watch the first two seasons. And, while the show is an obvious comedy, there are some nuggets of wisdom in there that I certainly couldn’t have written as well as the writers did, even if I tried. And one of these nuggets is, “All people are different people.”
We Can’t Predict the Future, So Enjoy the Present
Rather than trying to predict the future and plan your course of action based on that fictitious future, instead, go into each situation on its own, open to any outcome.
The Two Components to Getting Over Someone
I was on the phone earlier today with a client who, unfortunately, is fresh out of a relationship and going through a breakup. She asked me, in no uncertain terms, “Can I speed up the healing process? How can I
How to Get Past Ghosting
I’m going to come right out and say it: ghosting hurts! If you’ve ever been ghosted—that heart-sinking feeling when someone you were connecting with or dating suddenly disappears without a trace—you’re not alone. Far from it. Ghosting can be hurtful
Words of Wisdom for Dating in 2022
Words of wisdom for dating in 2022
You’re Not “Still Single”
December 26, 2021 A client sent me a text recently asking, “Can I ask you? Why am I still single? In your opinion? Maybe I’m not putting enough effort in? I want love to find me! Arghhh!” I actually get
Sympathy or Solutions?
Sometimes, someone calls you and starts to vent about something. Human nature (at least mine, and most people I know) is to jump to finding answers or solutions when, in fact, the person on the other end of the phone simply needs someone to just listen, sympathize, and commiserate.
What Can I Write to Attract a Quality Person?
“What can I write in my profile to attract the kind of person I’m looking for?” This is a question I get from clients almost daily. In their mind, they have a target partner. Let’s say this “target” is a
“I Just Didn’t Feel the Connection”
Why is it that something that should seem so easy – telling someone you’re not interested – is so hard for many people? I get it – no one wants to hurt anyone’s feelings. So, I’m going to share a